I'm at the stage of the game where I feel naked--vulnerable, I guess. Critique partners are finishing their feedback, beta readers are going through a (more) polished version, writer-friends are looking over my query letter, and I'm starting to share my "pitch" when it comes up in conversation.
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Exciting, right? One little problem: I'm stuck in the universal nightmare. Yep, that one. It starts with a seemingly normal situation, then... wait. What's this? I'M NAKED. Everyone's staring, maybe even laughing, but it's too late to cover up.
It's the same thing with this book. Sharing my story will mean putting myself out there. I'll have to expose myself to a variety of reactions, and I can't turn away. I mean, that's what I signed up for, isn't it? It's what we all signed up for.
Have a great week, guys! ♥
Trust me. They won't be laughing. You should be very proud of what you have achieved :o)
ReplyDeleteAww, thanks, Iain! :)
DeleteOooh, a long time I did a whole post called "Writing Naked". I wish I could find the link - I'll look for you. Hey, you're doing a lovely job of handling your nudity AND as someone who's read your work, you don't have to worry about ugly wobbly bits LOL. You're talented!
ReplyDeleteOo, I hope you find it. Sounds like a good read! (And I guess naked minds think alike! *grins*)
DeleteHah! "Ugly wobbly bits." I almost spit out my drink. Thank you! :)
Since November, I've shared my full MS with my wife (that was the hardest, let me tell you), my sister-in-law, two great readers that I know from the World of Blog, and my Writer's Group (only one of them has read the full, I'm waiting for her feedback). It's still hard to do, but I'm getting more comfortable with being naked in public. Err, with putting it out there. And by 'it' I mean my work, of course. Querying will be a whole new kind of nakedness, though.
ReplyDeleteOh, yeah. I remember you were anxious about sharing it with your wife, but it seems you've come a long way since then! (You word-exhibitionist, you!)
DeleteI agree. Querying will be a whole new kind of nakedness. Eek!
It is a bit like exposing a raw nerve, but in the end, I think it's worth it.
ReplyDeleteA raw nerve, huh? I like that! Thanks for stopping by, Matthew! :)
DeleteI don't know if we can ever feel completely comfortable. I bet even the big-name authors freak out once in awhile or worry about a certain review or fear their editor will send the manuscript back with more red marks than white spaces. :) *hugs*
ReplyDeleteHmm, you know, I think you're right. I guess we're all destined for a life of figurative nudity! ;)
Delete*Hugs* Thanks for the reality check!
If my book was as good as yours, I'd never (figuratively) wear clothes again. I'd be flaunting that nakedness for all to see! All naked, all the time!
ReplyDeleteDon't worry, this is a natural feeling. It, too, will pass. Your skin gets thicker and you gain confidence in your own abilities. One day you'll be all, "Yeah, that's right. I'm naked. You got somethin' to say about it?" Heh heh heh.
But seriously, don't sweat it. It's a normal part of this process, for one thing. And for another, you're brilliant.
Hah! You kill me. Repeatedly.
Delete"All naked, all the time!" Okay, okay. I'll (try to) stop snickering now. ;)
Thank you, my friend. You have no idea how much your support and encouragement mean to me. Somehow, you always manage to put things in perspective. :)
I agree, putting it all out there is difficult. But...nothing ventured nothing gained. Keep positive thoughts. You've done the work and it will be awesome. :)
ReplyDeleteToo true, Mina! Thank you! I certainly hope so. :)
DeleteP.S. I hope your writing is going well!
I love a great critique. If my wip comes back and it's not bleeding, I'm terribly disappointed.
ReplyDelete: ) We should have a writer's nudist colony for crazies like me.
Hah! Oh yes. A writer's nudist colony would be perfect for the cra... I mean, brave ones! ;)
DeleteI'm always naked. But I hate laundry, that's why. (Haha, I crack myself up sometimes!)
ReplyDeleteBut really, I feel figuratively naked all the time too, but I'm okay with that because it encourages me to 'work out' and cut the fat and tone and get all sexy sweet. That's what putting my stark butt out there is all about. :)
Hah! Oh, Cassie... ;)
DeleteNice! I hadn't thought about it that way, but you're right. The naked thing is a huge motivator to 'work out'!
Mine is out there right now and the best thing I've done is get totally immersed in another story. It makes you less self-conscious about the one that's already out. And when you get to the point when you want to do major cosmetic surgery because you have story dismorphic disorder, another shiny idea reminds you put down the scalpel. (Hmm, I may have just found my blog post for tomorrow.) :)
ReplyDeleteGood call, Sarah! Maybe I need to throw myself into the sequel for a while. (Then I can run around naked, but blissfully distracted!) Thanks! :)
DeleteOo, yeah! Sounds like a post, to me!
Oh, yes. I totally feel your pain. My goal is to start querying in February. Ugh
ReplyDeleteMine, too! (I think Nancy is going to query around that time, as well.) At least we won't have to descend into Query Hell alone! :)
DeleteThat's exactly how I feel when I put my work out there. When someone complements, I'm over the moon. When someone criticizes, I want to put on clothes.
ReplyDeleteExactly! I'm glad I'm not the only one. :)
DeleteOoh best of luck. This nakedness is prob the reason why I still haven't finished my darned book!
ReplyDeleteThanks, Claire! You know, I think it may be time to get over our fear of nakedness. Our books need us to be brave! ;)
DeleteI felt pretty darned exposed the first time I put something on a forum for critique. I think my skin has hardened a lot since then, but I haven't given a thought yet to having something out there in the big bad world for all to see. I can't imagine how that will feel, so please let us know how you get on!
ReplyDeleteWouldn't it be great if we could just smear on "rhino skin" like body paint? Public opinion? Hah! It doesn't affect us!
Delete...Wishful thinking, of course. We'll have to brace ourselves for the big, bad world the old fashioned way: equal parts support and determination! :)
I'm purposely not reading the others' remarks, and instead I'm going to be brave and admit that every author feels this way. I bet even the best sellers do. I saw an interview with Rowlands and she admitted as much.
ReplyDeleteBut honestly, the best thing that ever happened to me was when a critique blew my socks off and made me wonder whether I was an idiot when I thought I could write. I was actually willing to give it up. For about 2 days. Then I sat down, read the critique again, especially the part about her wanting to throw my story across the road, and got back to work.
Criticism is never easy. But it is the most valuable thing to a writer. Even the terrible ones. Even the useless ones.
You are brave! You know, knowing it happens to everyone really does make it easier. It seems expected, natural. (...It sounds like I'm talking about puberty! LOL)
DeleteI had a critique like that, too. Like you, it took a few days to get over it, and then I was right back at it--more driven than ever.
Too true, my friend. :)
Haha, see I was so emotionally upset by my memories that I wrote road instead of room. She wanted to throw my book across the road? Duh. Okay if readers were waiting for it, I suppose.
ReplyDeleteHah! I missed that. The road is a little extreme, I think. *grins*
DeleteAh! I'm so scared for this stage, but I can imagine what you mean. I'm starting the critique stage, but once it hits betas I will seriously have a panic attack, haha.
ReplyDeleteAww, we don't want that! Breathe with me. Breeeeeeathe. :D
DeleteGood luck with those critiques!
I totally understand. Having my CP's finish my book has left me feeling naked. That's it kids. That's all she wrote. But it has to happen I guess.
ReplyDeleteExactly! I guess it's one of those inevitabilities. :)
DeleteI'm still in the working-through-things stage but I can certainly understand where you're coming from. Not a pleasant place to be, but you're getting closer to your end-goal. Comfort in your own words is just a two-piece away.
ReplyDeleteVery true, Angela. This discomfort means I'm one step closer to my goal. Good luck with the working-through-things stage! That's a "fun" one, too. ;)
DeleteYup. I'm always "please help me with my query" and "please critique!" and then once it's out there, I'm absolutely horrified.
ReplyDeleteYes! I guess we better get used to being horrified. It doesn't sound like it'll go away anytime soon. ;)
Delete...as a jaybird, my dear. Feel like that all the time now!
ReplyDeleteI guess we're all in the same boat! :)
Delete...Why did I read "jaybird" as "mockingjay" the first time? Get out of my head, Hunger Games! *grins*
I feel the same way every time I get a critique! But I guess the going nude helps build my thick skin. :)
ReplyDeleteAt last! Figurative nudity has a benefit! :D
DeleteWe all feel that way at some point! It'll be okay, though :)
ReplyDeleteOf course it'll be okay. You're back in the blogosphere! :)
Delete*whispers* I'm naked all the time. Under my clothes. ;)
ReplyDeleteHonestly, my skin is thick from years of exposure. It's more like a wrinkly, elephant-skin hide which protects me quite nicely.
Melodie! How scandalous! *grins* Nice.
DeleteDefinitely. Whenever someone reads my work. We as writers put so much of ourselves out there, it seems natural to feel naked at times.
ReplyDeleteGreat post!
I guess that's what makes writing so powerful. We put so much of ourselves in it, that it has to come at some cost (vulnerability). Thanks, Susan! :)
DeleteOh man, I so used to feel naked, but over time, you get more and more comfortable telling people what your book is about, pitching it, for lack of a better term, more and more often. I used to feel so self-conscious about the dark and violent nature of my story, but people have been so intrigued and therefore, I've become more comfortable opening up about it. And you will, too. Same goes with queries. Rejections, however painful, produce scar tissue that makes you tough and resilient.
ReplyDeleteHmm, I guess it's time for me to get tough and resilient, too. Onward to Query Hell, Nancy! :D
DeleteThanks for hopping by my blog today. WOW - yours it wonderful! So glad to find it. And I know what you mean about feeling naked. Man - it's hard to be out there and reveal yourself like that. You can do it though! I can already sense your awesomeness!
ReplyDeleteThank you so much, Leigh! It's great to have you here! :D
DeleteNot yet. But I know I'll have to put my work out there at some point--and I'm sure I'll feel the same way!
ReplyDeletePrepare for the figurative nakedness, Eagle! (It sneaks up on you.) :)
DeleteI'm very protective of who and more importantly WHEN I share my work. I'm not afraid of a harsh critique, but only at the right time :)
ReplyDeleteSounds like a healthy mindset! :)
DeleteAhh, yes. The naked feeling. I'm not sure that ever goes away! I mean, if things go the way you want, then more and more and more people are there with your words and... I guess it's just time to be comfortable being naked. (Great analogy, btw!)
ReplyDeleteWe'll have to channel our inner-exhibitionists! *Grins* Thanks, Pegasus!
DeleteI laughed when I read this. And shuddered, too. I'm right behind you (Um. Not literally. LOL), holding my shed clothing in front of me, trying to decide if I can take the plunge and let go. Oh. Wow... sorry for that visual. = D
ReplyDeleteHah! This post prompted a whole host of awkward visuals. And awkward conversations.
Delete...Like the part where I encourage you to get naked and join the rest of us. LOL
Um, yes! I just sent a story off to several different people for review so I'm feeling REEEAAAALY naked right now!
ReplyDeleteI bet! Don't worry. There's a positive side to it, too. If the other comments are any indication, being "naked" is the best way to develop rhino skin. :)
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